"I have to stay in my child's room until they fall asleep." Three ways timed checks can help everyone have a better night.

Many parents tell me, “I have to stay in the room until my child falls asleep.”

Bedtime turns into lying in the dark for 30–45 minutes or even longer, waiting for little eyes to finally close, knowing the dinner dishes, the lunch bags, and work emails await. 

Sound familiar? 

It's so hard to stay calm and patient in those moments when the to do list feels never-ending. 

It doesn't have to be like this.  

A gentle alternative is timed check-ins — stepping out for a short interval, then returning to reassure. Over time, this method helps children feel secure while also learning to settle themselves.

And yes, this works even for kids with separation anxiety, a "spirited" temperament, and extra strong opinions. :) 

In fact, timed checks are especially helpful for kids like these. 

Three ways timed check-ins benefit your child:

1. Builds trust and security

When you consistently return at the times you promise, your child learns: “My parent always comes back.” That predictability lowers anxiety and makes bedtime feel safe.

2. Encourages independence

With you nearby but not right next to them, your child gets to practice falling asleep on their own. That little bit of independence builds confidence they’ll carry into other parts of life, like daycare and school drop offs. 

3. Eases bedtime struggles

As your child grows more comfortable with the routine, the protests get shorter and bedtime becomes calmer. Falling asleep starts to feel less like a battle more like a pleasant ritual you both actually enjoy.

✨ The best part? Your child still feels cared for, while you gain back time and energy in the evenings. Everyone wins.

Ready to try this (with support)?

I know this might sound like an impossible goal.

That's where I can help.

Sleep coaching helps you create -- and consistently implement -- a plan that’s gentle, consistent, and tailored to your child’s needs. And with my money-back guarantee, there’s no risk in getting started. Let's talk about if this might be a good fit for your family.