Why You're Still Exhausted After Sleep Training (And What to Do About It)

Your baby is finally sleeping through the night.

No more late-night bouncing, no more 10 pm negotiations with your preschooler, no more 4 a.m. panic-scrolls about regressions.

So why are you still so tired?

The truth is how much you’ve been carrying for so long without the support you deserve.

It’s Not You. It’s the System.

We live in a culture that glorifies burnout. We’re told to “do it all,” and when that proves impossible, we quietly decide we must be doing something wrong with us as individuals.

If only we were more organized.

If only we could get up earlier.

If only we had the perfect spouse to encourage us.

The quiet message is: If you're tired, it's your fault.

Let me be clear: it's not you, it's the world we live in. 

Where Is Your Fairy Godmother?

When you became a parent, you probably didn’t also get a live-in support system to nurture you through it. Some of us move far away from family. Others lose parents too young. Some simply don’t have emotionally safe relationships to fall back on.

And yet, we still expect ourselves to show up every day—with patience, presence, creativity, and competence—without someone in our corner saying:

“Come, love. You’ve done enough for now. Sit. Rest. You deserve to be nurtured now.”

The Post-Sleep Coaching Gap

As a sleep coach and pediatric nurse practitioner, I’ve helped hundreds of families finally get the rest they need. But what I’ve noticed again and again is this: the relief that comes with better sleep is real—but it doesn’t touch the deeper depletion.

There’s often a crash that comes after the adrenaline fades. You handled the crisis. Now you’re standing in the quiet—and suddenly noticing how threadbare you’ve become.

Coaching Changed That for Me

When I was in the thick of this exhaustion, I raced through my days fueled by adrenaline, dark chocolate, and desperation. I thought that was just how motherhood was supposed to feel.

Then I discovered coaching—which felt very different from therapy (I’ve done a lot of that, but didn't experience this transformation with any of them). More forward-looking. More solution-focused. I literally felt a difference in myself after the very first session.

Coaching gave me a place to be nurtured and empowered to have someone see me clearly and help me move toward the life I wanted.

Now? I still get tired, of course. But the chronic, soul-weary, bone-deep exhaustion is 90% better. Not because life got easier, but because my coach taught me that meeting my own needs is essential to be the mother, partner, and friend that I want to be. The adage "you can't pour from an empty cup" put into action.  

You Deserve to Be Supported, Too

If you’re post-sleep training and still feel like you’re barely holding it together, please know this isn’t a personal failing. It’s the inevitable result of doing too much, for too long.

You deserve someone who is wholeheartedly in your corner.

Someone who helps you untangle the invisible mental load, the over-scheduling, the internal pressure to be everything to everyone.

Someone who says, “Yes, it’s a lot. Let’s figure out how to make it lighter.”

I'd love to be this person for you.
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If any part of this made your shoulders drop even slightly, let's have a conversation.

There's no sales pitch. Just an exploration of what is hard for you in this season of your life and how we can best support you through it. It would be an honor to offer you an hour -- at no charge -- to explore this. 

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