This phrase might be my favorite life advice of all. Apparently it’s credited to Voltaire.
My life coach teacher, Brooke Castillo, advises us to “do B- work.”
Her reasoning behind that is if we wait until we are doing things perfectly, we aren’t getting our work out into the world.
Here’s how I am applying it in my own life.
One way is with this blog. I really want to write a sleep post AND a life coaching post every single week.
But life as a single working parent is busy.
So I commit to writing and hitting publish every week, whether or not it’s a great piece of writing. (It never is.)
To my amazement, clients sometimes tell me my blog posts are helpful. Which is amazing!
But most important of all, I am keeping my word to myself. That I get it done every week, no matter what. B- work for the win.
I’ve been posting (almost) weekly for 3.5 years now. Pretty good for a B- worker. And I’d venture to guess that some of my posts might even be better than B- work.
And my recent goal is now two blog posts a weeks, and I'm doing pretty well with that these last few weeks.
Another way I’m doing B- work is with my eating and my exercise.
In case you didn’t read my Valentine’s Day post (link), I’m pregnant. Twenty-six weeks along.
It’s been a rough one. WAY more fatigue and nausea than with my previous pregnancies. Thankfully I am finally feeling much, much better, thanks to iron injections and pure "tincture of time."
And so I, a lifelong exerciser and generally healthy eater, have taken many, many days off from both. It’s easy to beat myself up over it. Like, really really easy. I am not a person who says “all bets are off since I am pregnant.”
But I am finally figuring out that that serves no one, least of all me and my habits.
When we beat ourselves up, we inevitably do even worse.
So i am striving for smaller wins. Eating one healthy meal at a time. Redefining “healthy.” (Right now, it looks like vegetables aren’t really going to happen, and neither is fish. Mac and cheese and PB&J are in the rotation. Reducing but not eliminating lime popsicles, the magical cure for nausea.) Attempting SUPER easy workouts.
These decisions don’t make me feel great… but then I remember that beating myself up helps no one. No one ever took long lasting action from a place of self-disgust.
Where do you find yourself beating yourself up? Can you imagine motivating yourself from a place of love and acceptance? As if you were motivating your child instead of yourself?
Imagine your child learning to walk. You wouldn't criticize them for stumbling after 3 steps. You'd be cheering them on saying, "good work, you got this, get up and try again!"
I promise you that setting the bar low doesn’t mean you won’t do great work. You will. It just makes it easier to start.
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Abby Wolfson is a pediatric nurse practitioner, certified child sleep consultant and certified life coach for parents. She divides her time between Brooklyn, NY and San Miguel de Allende, Mexico.