This phrase might be my favorite life advice of all. Apparently it’s credited to Voltaire.
My life coach teacher, Brooke Castillo, advises us to “do B- work.” Her reasoning behind that is if we wait until we are doing things perfectly, we aren’t getting our work out into the world. Here’s how I am applying it in my own life. One way is with this blog. I really want to write a sleep post AND a life coaching post every single week. But life as a single working parent is busy. So I commit to writing and hitting publish every week, whether or not it’s a great piece of writing. (It never is.) To my amazement, clients sometimes tell me my blog posts are helpful. Which is amazing! But most important of all, I am keeping my word to myself. That I get it done every week, no matter what. B- work for the win. I’ve been posting (almost) weekly for 3.5 years now. Pretty good for a B- worker. And I’d venture to guess that some of my posts might even be better than B- work. And my recent goal is now two blog posts a weeks, and I'm doing pretty well with that these last few weeks. Another way I’m doing B- work is with my eating and my exercise. In case you didn’t read my Valentine’s Day post (link), I’m pregnant. Twenty-six weeks along. It’s been a rough one. WAY more fatigue and nausea than with my previous pregnancies. Thankfully I am finally feeling much, much better, thanks to iron injections and pure "tincture of time." And so I, a lifelong exerciser and generally healthy eater, have taken many, many days off from both. It’s easy to beat myself up over it. Like, really really easy. I am not a person who says “all bets are off since I am pregnant.” But I am finally figuring out that that serves no one, least of all me and my habits. When we beat ourselves up, we inevitably do even worse. So i am striving for smaller wins. Eating one healthy meal at a time. Redefining “healthy.” (Right now, it looks like vegetables aren’t really going to happen, and neither is fish. Mac and cheese and PB&J are in the rotation. Reducing but not eliminating lime popsicles, the magical cure for nausea.) Attempting SUPER easy workouts. These decisions don’t make me feel great… but then I remember that beating myself up helps no one. No one ever took long lasting action from a place of self-disgust. Where do you find yourself beating yourself up? Can you imagine motivating yourself from a place of love and acceptance? As if you were motivating your child instead of yourself? Imagine your child learning to walk. You wouldn't criticize them for stumbling after 3 steps. You'd be cheering them on saying, "good work, you got this, get up and try again!" I promise you that setting the bar low doesn’t mean you won’t do great work. You will. It just makes it easier to start. If you have a goal you’d like to achieve, I can help. Set up a complimentary life coaching session and experience a transformation in just one hour, guaranteed.
0 Comments
Leave a Reply. |
AuthorAbby Wolfson is a pediatric nurse practitioner, certified child sleep consultant and certified life coach for parents. She divides her time between Brooklyn, NY and San Miguel de Allende, Mexico. Archives
February 2025
Categories
All
|