Should My Child Have A Later Bedtime on Weekends?

Weekends. Gloriously free but hectic, too. So much you need to do. And so many things you just want to do.

Grocery shopping. Errands. Cooking. Catching up with friends and family. And then the ever-elusive sleeping in.

Surely a later bedtime on weekends can't hurt?

Well, only if you and your child don't mind the occasional jet lag.

The truth is, children don't do well with a lack of consistency in their routine. Children thrive on predictable wake times, nap times, and bedtimes. Putting them to bed later feels to their bodies like changing time zones. You know that doesn't feel good. 

And the even uglier truth? Adults do better with consistency, too.

Part of the reason you so desperately want to sleep in on weekends is that you are accumulating sleep debt by changing your bedtime and wake times so frequently.

It's hard to give up those occasional late nights, but if you do, you will feel less tired. Even if you get a bit less sleep, overall. 

Before you accuse me of being a Grinch... I get it. I truly do.

This past weekend, I kept my children up late to go see the newly-lit Christmas tree in town. My little one got to bed an hour and a half late. 

Sometimes, we have to prioritize life over sleep. It's important to balance the needs of the entire family, including the parents, with the sleep needs of your child. 

I encourage you to limit exceptions, though, to no more than twice a month. Plan ahead so you save those later nights for the most important of occasions.

Here are some other ways to limit the impact of the occasional late night: 

• Plan for an extra-early bedtime the next night, or even the next several nights. Don't have two late nights in a row. 
• Expect your child to be extra cranky the next day, and plan for extra patience on your part.
• Plan for Monday morning to also be harder than usual. Plan to get up a little early so you won't have to rush your child out of the house too quickly.
• Don't expect your child to sleep late. It's more likely she will wake up early. If she's able to sleep late occasionally, consider yourself lucky!
• Even if he sleeps late, naptime should be at the regular time or even a bit earlier than usual. Try to expose your child to plenty of natural light and get him outside for some exercise the morning after your late night. Lazing around and watching TV all morning won't help him get back on schedule. 
• If your child sleeps late on a regular basis (past 7:30 am), she needs an earlier bedtime. Every night. She is showing you that she is exhausted.  
• If he's waking before 6 am, he's also showing you that he's most likely overtired. 

Watch your child and see how she reacts to the occasional late night. As she gets older, she will be more able to tolerate that occasional exception. A younger toddler may be better off staying home with a babysitter and getting to bed on time, rather than going out with the family. It may also be a lot more enjoyable for you that way. Rest assured, she won't need this early bedtime forever. 

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