 If you’re exhausted, running on fumes, and desperate for more sleep—but dreading the idea of letting your baby cry—it’s time for a game-changer. There’s one simple tweak you can make today that will dramatically improve your baby’s nighttime sleep:
👉 Move to a four-hour feeding schedule during the day and night. That’s it. No crying. No stress. Just a gentle shift that makes all the difference. Why Does This Work? Many babies wake frequently at night because they’re used to snacking throughout the day and evening. Their little bodies don’t learn to consolidate calories—or sleep. By stretching feedings to every four hours (gently, at your baby’s pace), you naturally help them take fuller feeds, making nighttime wake-ups less necessary. I couldn’t believe it when I implemented this with my oldest daughter. She started sleeping 8-hour stretches at just 8 weeks old—without any formal sleep training. Since then, I’ve seen similar results with hundreds of client families. Even if your baby isn’t quite ready to sleep through the night yet, this one shift will lead to longer, more restful sleep stretches—without tears. What Can You Expect? ✔️ Fewer night wakings ✔️ Longer, more predictable stretches of sleep ✔️ More peaceful days (and nights!) Want to take it a step further? If you're ready for your baby to sleep through the night, I can help--with a customized sleep plan and guaranteed results in two weeks or less. Let’s get you the rest you need. Schedule a free consult today.
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 You’re up for the third time tonight, rocking your fussy baby in the dim glow of the nightlight. They tug at their ear, gnaw on their drooly hand, and let out a whimper that turns into a full-on wail. Teething, you think. It has to be. Why else would they be waking up so much?
Sound familiar? Many parents have been in this exact moment, blaming teething for sudden sleep struggles. But what if teething isn’t the real culprit? What if something else is at play? Let’s dive into why teething gets all the blame—and what’s actually going on with your baby’s sleep. Why Teething Gets Blamed for Every Sleep Issue—And What’s Really Going On Teething has long been the go-to explanation for every sleep disruption in babies and toddlers. Your baby is suddenly waking up every hour? Teething. Fussier than usual? Teething. Refusing to nap? Definitely teething. But is teething really the cause of all these sleep struggles, or is it just an easy scapegoat? The Reality of Teething Discomfort Let’s be clear—teething can be uncomfortable. Some babies experience drooling, gum irritation, and increased biting or chewing behaviors. Occasionally, they might have a low-grade fever or a slightly disrupted sleep pattern for a day or two. But teething is not a chronic, weeks-long sleep saboteur. Most babies start teething around 4–6 months, and they continue cutting teeth well into their toddler years. If teething truly disrupted sleep every time a new tooth was coming in, babies would never sleep! The reality is that teething discomfort comes in waves and is often mild compared to other developmental changes happening in your baby’s body and brain. Why Teething Gets the Blame
If your baby is suddenly struggling with sleep, teething might be a small factor, but chances are other things are at play:
The Bottom Line Teething can cause mild discomfort, but it’s rarely the main reason for prolonged sleep disruptions. Instead of assuming every rough night is teething-related, take a step back and look at the bigger picture. Addressing sleep habits and developmental changes will do far more for your baby’s rest than simply blaming new teeth. If sleep struggles persist, there are gentle and effective strategies to help your baby get the rest they need—without waiting months for all those teeth to come in! PS Great news: ff you don't wait for alllllllll the teeth to come in (and probably well beyond), you don't have to. Book a free call and find out how you can get your little one sleeping through the night in two weeks or less, guaranteed.  Not for the first time -- sheesh! -- I made a mistake on my DST advice. This time I actually checked with another resource before publishing and THEY were wrong too!
Sigh. Please move your child's bedtime, naps, and meals a few minutes EARLIER each day in anticipation of the start of daylight savings time, NOT later. I don't know why this one confuses me every time! Apologies for any inconvenience this may have caused! The good news is you still have time to get your kids on track for the DST transition. Heads Up -- Daylight Savings Starts This Sunday (in the USA). Here's How To Prepare Your Little One3/3/2025  Daylight Savings Time (DST) begins in the United States on Sunday, March 9, meaning the clocks will spring forward by one hour. For parents of babies and toddlers, this time change can disrupt sleep schedules and lead to overtired, cranky little ones.
But don’t worry—here's a plan to help your child adjust smoothly! The Best Way to Handle Daylight Savings Time If you can plan ahead, the gradual shift method is my favorite way to help little ones transition without major sleep disruptions. Here’s how:
If you’re a little less organized (and I don't blame you! this gradual shift requires a lot of attention to detail!) or don’t have a full week to prepare, you can still adjust successfully:
You can, of course, do nothing at all—but be prepared for potential sleep disruptions like early morning wakings, night wakings, and overtiredness. If that happens:
The Key Benefit of a Gradual Approach One of the biggest advantages of easing into DST is flexibility. If your little one is already overtired on a given day, you can simply take a break and resume adjusting the next day. This prevents unnecessary stress and keeps sleep disruptions minimal. Want a Baby Who Sleeps Soundly Every Night? Daylight Savings Time is just one of many sleep challenges parents face. If you’re ready for peaceful nights and easy bedtimes, book a free consult today and find out how your family can feel amazingly well-rested in two weeks or less—guaranteed!  If you’ve ever been told that you can have good nights or good naps—but not both—you’re not alone. This common myth is often shared by well-meaning parents who have chosen not to sleep train. But the truth? It’s simply not accurate and it's actually harmful because it's keeping many tired families from the rest they need to feel amazing.
Great Night Sleep Leads to Better Naps (And Vice Versa!) Sleep isn’t an either/or situation. In fact, when your baby gets solid, restorative sleep at night, they are more likely to take better naps during the day. And when naps improve, so does nighttime sleep. It’s a cycle that works for you, not against you. The problem with accepting the “one or the other” mindset is that it keeps both you and your baby in a state of exhaustion. And let’s be honest—being overtired makes everything harder, from feeding to playtime to your own ability to function throughout the day, never mind enjoying it all. Why Night Training Comes First For most families, starting with night training makes the most sense. Nighttime sleep tends to consolidate more quickly, and parents typically see results within just a few days. Once nighttime sleep is solid, nap training becomes much easier because your baby is no longer dealing with chronic overtiredness. So if you’ve been struggling with broken nights and short, inconsistent naps, know this: you don’t have to live this way. You can have a well-rested baby—and a well-rested you. Ready to Get the Sleep You Deserve? If you’re done feeling exhausted and ready to make a change, schedule a free consult today. Together, we can create a sleep plan that works for your family—one that leads to both great nights and restful naps.  If you’ve ever Googled “why is my baby suddenly not sleeping?” at 2 a.m., you’re not alone. You’ve probably heard of the infamous 4-month sleep regression. But what about the others? Sleep regressions commonly occur at 9 months, 12 months, 18 months, and again around 3 years old (or whenever a child transitions from a crib to an open bed).
What is a Sleep Regression? A sleep regression is a period when a baby or toddler, who was previously sleeping well, suddenly starts waking up frequently, resisting naps, or struggling with bedtime—often out of nowhere. Unlike teething, there’s no obvious physical cause, like pain or illness. (And honestly? Most sleep disruptions blamed on teething aren’t actually caused by erupting teeth.) Instead, sleep regressions typically happen when a child is experiencing a major developmental leap. At 4 months, babies’ sleep shifts from a newborn pattern (where they can doze off in a noisy room) to a more structured sleep cycle that includes REM sleep. Their increased social awareness means they now have a serious case of FOMO—so you may need to take them to a quiet space to eat and sleep. Sleep Regressions by Age 4-Month Sleep Regression What’s happening: Babies transition from newborn sleep cycles to more adult-like sleep patterns, waking up more frequently between cycles. How to handle it: This is a great time to establish strong sleep habits and routines. Teaching independent sleep skills can help them settle between cycles. 9-Month Sleep Regression What’s happening: Around this time, babies develop separation anxiety, start crawling, and pull up to stand. Many wake up to practice their new skills or check that you’re still nearby. How to handle it: Give plenty of practice time during the day for new motor skills, provide extra reassurance, and reinforce a consistent bedtime routine. 12-Month Sleep Regression What’s happening: Taking those first steps and the transition to fewer naps can cause night wakings or nap strikes. Some toddlers also begin testing boundaries. How to handle it: Stick to a predictable schedule and avoid dropping naps too soon. Encourage soothing techniques that don’t involve rocking or feeding to sleep. 18-Month Sleep Regression What’s happening: Toddlers develop their own agendas, test boundaries, and experience a surge in independence. Many are also running and jumping. How to handle it: Stay consistent with bedtime rules, offer extra reassurance, and avoid making big sleep changes during this phase. Crib-to-Bed Transition Sleep Regression What’s happening: Moving from the security of a crib to the freedom of a bed can be overwhelming. Toddlers often get out of bed repeatedly, test limits, or struggle with falling asleep without the familiar crib enclosure. How to handle it: If you haven’t transitioned yet, toddler-proof the room first. Use a doorknob cover to keep them from leaving at will, and never introduce the habit of lying down with them to fall asleep—unless you want a long-term bed partner! How to Get Through a Sleep Regression If you haven’t sleep trained yet, now is the perfect time. Counterintuitively, sleep training actually builds confidence. When a child knows they can fall asleep and stay asleep on their own, they feel secure in the knowledge that you’ll come back when sleep time is done. For babies who rely on an adult to sleep, sleep becomes an anxiety-ridden experience because they have no control over their rest. If you’ve already sleep trained, the good news is that sleep regressions tend to be shorter and less severe. If your child suddenly starts waking up at night, first check for physical discomfort—illness, temperature issues, or a dirty diaper. If everything checks out, reinforce your existing sleep training method (whether CIO, timed checks, or the chair method). The key is consistency. Most kids return to great sleep in just 2-3 nights. PS If your family is stuck in a sleep regression, you’re not alone. I can help. Set up a free consult, and let’s get you unstuck in two weeks or less--guaranteed.  That depends on your preference! There are two main approaches, and each has its pros and cons. Let’s break them down.
Option 1: Potty Training at Age 3+ If you wait until age 3 or later, the process will probably go faster—sometimes as quickly as one day, but more commonly around three days. By this age, children have greater bodily awareness, which makes it easier for them to recognize when they need to go. If you have a 3-year-old still in diapers, you’ve likely noticed they have a favorite place to poop and may even seek privacy. (In our nanny share, the other child liked to go behind the recliner to poop.) You can take advantage of that by taking your child immediately to the bathroom when you see them head to their favorite pooping spot. Pros of Potty Training at 3+ Years: ✅ Stronger body awareness makes the process go more quickly ✅ Less cleanup overall ✅ More independence, more quickly, because a three-year-old may be able to pull down and up their pants themselves. Cons of Potty Training at 3+ Years: ❌ More likely to resist potty training if they don’t want to do it (hello, power struggles!) ❌ Refusing to poop on the potty is common at this age and can last for weeks or months ❌ No amount of stickers, M&Ms, or screen time bribes will work if they don't want to cooperate (lack of cooperation is much less common with toddlers) ❌ You may end up paying for an extra year and a half of diapers ❌ You will be diapering a much larger kid in the meantime, which may have a certain ick factor Option 2: Potty Training Between 21-28+ Months This is the approach I’ve chosen for all three of my kids. It takes a bit longer—usually about a week—but it avoids the battles that can come with training a strong-willed 3+-year-old. Pros of Early Potty Training (21-28 Months): ✅ Toddlers are generally more compliant and eager to please ✅ Less resistance = fewer power struggles ✅ Simple rewards (like clapping) are enough motivation ✅ Significant cost savings on diapers ✅ More environmentally friendly Cons of Early Potty Training (21-28 Months): ❌ Takes longer than training at age 3+ because body awareness is still developing ❌ Requires patience and a zen approach to cleaning up messes Common Potty Training Myths & Realities Some parents believe diapers are easier than dealing with the potty, but I haven’t found that to be true. Yes, it’s inconvenient for about a month—right now, we don’t go far without a potty, and we’ve rolled up our rugs to make cleanup easier. But the long-term benefits are worth it to me, because I dislike the cost and ickiness of changing diapers after the first year of life. Also, I have never (knock wood!) had to deal with potty poop refusal and that can take a lot longer than a week to resolve, months, sometimes. Need Help with Potty Training? If you’re feeling overwhelmed, stuck in a cycle of accidents, or just don’t know where to start, I can help (whether you are potty training early, late, or somewhere in between). Book a free parent coaching consult, and let’s make potty training easier for you and your child!  Many parents worry that sleep training means choosing between their own needs and their child’s. They fear their child will feel abandoned, anxious, or even traumatized. But the truth is, sleep training—when done with love and consistency—can actually strengthen your bond with your child while giving you both the rest you need.
A Parent’s Journey: From Guilt to Confidence When Jen first started sleep training her daughter, Ruth, she struggled with intense guilt. Every night, she would lie down with Ruth until she fell asleep. Then, she’d carefully sneak out to get a few things done before Ruth inevitably woke up, needing her presence again. Most nights, Jen ended up sleeping beside her daughter just to keep the peace, sacrificing both her rest and her evening downtime. She worried that by changing their bedtime routine, she was somehow failing Ruth—that she would feel abandoned or unsafe. But as we worked together, Jen realized that what her daughter really needed wasn’t constant presence, but clear, loving boundaries that helped her feel secure. The Power of Boundaries at Bedtime By holding firm yet compassionate boundaries and gradually withdrawing her presence, Jen saw an incredible shift—not just in Ruth’s sleep, but in their entire relationship. ✅ Ruth became more confident and secure. Knowing her parents were in charge and that bedtime followed a predictable pattern actually reduced her anxiety. ✅ She was happier during the day. With better quality sleep, Ruth was noticeably more cheerful, patient, and resilient. ✅ Jen felt like a better parent. She finally had time in the evening to relax with her husband and get restful sleep in her own bed, making her more present and engaged during the day. Why Sleep Training is a Gift to Your Child Sleep training isn’t about abandoning your child—it’s about teaching them a skill that benefits their emotional well-being. When children know what to expect at bedtime and trust that their parents will be consistent, they feel safer. They also get the deep, restorative sleep they need for healthy emotional regulation, cognitive development, and overall happiness. Many parents believe that setting sleep boundaries means prioritizing themselves over their child. But in reality, it’s a win-win. Well-rested parents are more patient, loving, and available, while well-rested children are happier, more secure, and better able to handle challenges during the day. Sleep Training Lessons Apply to Parenting Beyond Bedtime One of the biggest takeaways from sleep training is how valuable clear, loving boundaries are in parenting as a whole. When children understand that their parents set expectations and follow through with consistency, it leads to fewer power struggles and more connection throughout the day. If you’re ready for more ease and joy in your relationship with your child, schedule a free consult for sleep coaching. And if you’ve already sleep trained but are still facing power struggles, parent coaching can help you apply these same boundary-setting principles to other areas of your child’s life. Let’s work together to create a well-rested, happy home for both you and your child.  When it comes to sleep training, what worked for one child doesn’t always work for another, even within the same family. I recently worked with a family who came to me exhausted and frustrated. Their seven-month-old, Molly, was waking multiple times a night, including at least two full feedings. They had successfully used a timed check method with their older child, but this approach just wasn’t doing the trick for their younger daughter.
The Initial Sleep Struggles Before making any changes, her parents logged Molly's night wakings. Here’s what her first night looked like:
This is a classic example of how each baby has unique sleep needs and associations. Here are a few key reasons the timed check method wasn’t effective:
We developed a gradual weaning plan for Molly as well as a sleep training plan, but much to her parents' surprise, after some sleep training at bedtime, Molly started sleeping through the night within a few nights! We never even started the gradual weaning plan. It turned out that night feedings were actually a symptom of her sleep problems. Once we solved the problem of timing (naps and bedtime) and gave her a chance to learn to self-soothe, Molly night-weaned without any assistance at all. The Results Within a few nights, Molly was sleeping 10-12 hours with no night feedings. The parents, who had been struggling with exhaustion, were finally getting the rest they needed, too. The Takeaway It's amazing how we think that lots of feedings can prevent night wakings, but sometimes it's the opposite. If your sleep training method isn’t working, it doesn’t mean you’re doing something wrong—it just means your baby needs a different approach. Each child is unique, and finding the right strategy requires understanding their sleep habits, associations, and individual temperament. If you’re struggling with sleep training, I’d love to help you create a customized plan that works for your family. Book a free discovery call today and let’s get you and your baby the sleep you both need!  Last night, I had a conversation with a client that brought up a concern so many parents share when considering sleep training.
She’s using a high-parental-involvement method where she stays in the room while her toddler falls asleep and during any night wakings. This feels comfortable to her right now because she grew up in a culture where families often slept in the same room. However, she’s starting to feel uneasy about the next step in the plan, which involves sitting outside her child’s room as they learn to fall asleep more independently. Here’s what she asked: “I feel like: is she scared of being alone at night? We (adults) sleep with someone else… so is it so unreasonable for her to want that? I don’t want her to feel scared or abandoned when sleeping. I’ve been advised a lot about how it’s normal to feel anxious when sleeping and just because children go to sleep independently or stop crying, 'lose the response of crying,' during the cry-it-out method doesn’t mean they aren’t anxious. Just that they feel scared and keep it within themselves.” First, I want to acknowledge how beautifully she expressed this fear—a fear many parents share. The idea of leaving your child alone at night can feel overwhelming, especially when you’re trying to balance your child’s emotional needs with the realities of family life and your own well-being. Let’s take a step back and look at this situation more closely. Before sleep training, this parent would lie down with her child until she fell asleep, then either stay the whole night or come back at the first waking to spend the rest of the night together. Since starting sleep training three nights ago, the child has gone from multiple night wakings to zero or one—all while the parent remains in the room, sitting in a chair rather than lying down. This is already a huge step forward for both parent and child, and it’s been achieved with a high level of parental presence and comfort. Will My Child Feel Abandoned If I Leave the Room? This is such an important question, and it speaks to every parent’s instinct to protect their child. From my experience—both as a parent and as someone who’s worked with hundreds of families—the answer is no. Children who are sleep trained using loving, consistent methods do not feel abandoned. Instead, they learn a new skill: how to fall asleep independently, knowing their parent is nearby and always there if they truly need support. When the time comes for this client to move outside her child’s room, the transition will happen gradually and with reassurance. She’ll check in every few minutes, so her child will never feel “forgotten.” And while it’s natural for a toddler to protest change, what’s important is the parent’s consistency and loving presence—even if that presence is just outside the door. The Truth About Cry-It-Out (CIO) It’s worth noting that while many parents are hesitant about the cry-it-out method, it isn’t the only option. In fact, I don’t push families to use CIO unless they feel it’s right for them. In this client’s case, her method involves staying close and offering comfort as her child adjusts to new sleep patterns. But for parents who do choose CIO, research shows it’s not harmful when used in loving, supportive homes. I’ve used CIO with my own children when other methods didn’t work for them. For example, my oldest child found it more upsetting when I returned every few minutes. Switching to CIO resulted in less overall stress for her, and she quickly learned to sleep through the night. Today, all three of my children love to sleep, go to bed happily, and wake up refreshed. Our bond is as strong as ever, and I’ve seen the same outcome in countless families I’ve worked with. What Does the Research Say About Sleep Training? When I became certified as a child sleep consultant, I did a deep dive into the literature to see if there was any evidence of trauma from sleep training. I couldn’t find a single study that showed psychological harm in children from loving, consistent sleep training methods. The studies that did report damage were based on extreme cases, such as permanent separation from caregivers (as seen in rat studies) or neglectful environments like Romanian orphanages. Emily Oster, the author of Crib Sheet and Expecting Better, reviewed the data as well and found the same results: “The data shows that sleep training does not lead to long- or short-term attachment issues. And for most babies, it will lead to longer sleep stretches. It has also been shown to improve mood and mental health for parents.” This means you don’t have to choose between healthy sleep and healthy attachment—they actually go hand in hand. That's because better sleep often strengthens the bond between parent and child because everyone is more rested, present, and patient during the day. You’re Not Alone If you’re feeling unsure about sleep training or worried about what it means for your child’s emotional health, know that you’re not alone. These fears are normal, and they’re a sign of how much you care about your child. But with a method that feels right for your family and a consistent, loving approach, your child can learn to sleep confidently and independently, secure in your love for them. Ready to Take the First Step? If you’re dreaming of better sleep for your family but feel unsure about how to start—or how to stay consistent—I’m here to help. Schedule a free consultation today, and we can create a personalized plan that works for your family. In two weeks or less, you can have the well-rested family you’ve been hoping for—guaranteed. |
AuthorAbby Wolfson is a pediatric nurse practitioner, certified child sleep consultant and certified life coach for parents. She divides her time between Brooklyn, NY and San Miguel de Allende, Mexico. Archives
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